Weekly Email Tips to Support a Grieving Friend
Those grieving are in great need of support. If a close friend has recently experienced a loss, fill out the form below to subscribe to our weekly tips and find out how you can be most helpful.
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Family Emergency
Nothing adequately prepares us for the initial shock of losing a loved one to death. Feelings of panic and helplessness may be overwhelming, but it's important to know you are not alone. It is important to reach out to close relatives, friends, and professionals for the help, support, and comfort you need. Notifying family & friends is always an important consideration in the initial tasks to be completed. Call immediate family members first, parents, children, brothers, sisters and grandparents of the deceased. Again, do not worry about waking others. Grief researchers say those close to the deceased feel left out if they aren't told about death immediately. Rely on others to assist you in notifying everyone: do not attempt to do this yourself. It not only helps others through the grieving process to have some responsibility, but also allows you to carry on with other tasks. Although it may be difficult, telling others of a death is therapeutic. Saying aloud that a loved one has died, the death is confirmed in your mind - an important step in the grief process.
So much to be done in what seems like so little time. The emotional impact of death understandably makes it difficult to focus on the details that go into organizing a funeral. Also by clicking on the resource center on the home page, you open a wealth of information and guidance to assist you through all of your needs.
| Question #1 | When death occurs at home, what should we do? |
| Answer: | If the death has been expected, the physician caring for the deceased will be able to pronounce the death and this is the person you should first contact. You can then call the funeral home of your choice to remove the body and follow the personal wishes of the deceased. If the death is unexpected, the police should be notified. They will in turn dispatch an officer and contact a local coroner or medical examiner who will then decide the level of investigation necessary to determine the cause of death. They will arrange to have the body transferred to either a hospital or examination center if an autopsy is required (at their cost). Once the body has been transferred and the examination complete you have the right to choose the funeral home you wish to carry out the deceased's final wishes. If after a preliminary examination and investigation it is determined no further inquiry is necessary, you may then call the funeral home of your choice to remove the body and carry out the deceased's final wishes. |
| Question #2 | If we are on vacation, and a death occurs what should we do? |
| Answer: | If a death was to occur away from the home, i.e. during a vacation or a business trip, then Harris-Mountain Funeral Home suggests that you do a few things first. Call us and we will take care of making the necessary contact with a reputable firm in the area that the death occurred. This action will avoid any possibility of becoming involved with a funeral home outside of your residential area that may care little about matters because they feel they will not ever deal with your family again. When calling Harris-Mountain Funeral Home, we can act as your agent, monitoring and avoiding any possibility of excessive, unnecessary or double-billing. Contact your local police department and they will dispatch an officer to your location immediately so you will not be alone. If the death was sudden and unexplained, your local police authorities will make the necessary call to the local coroner to attend to the place of death. A county medical examiner or coroner may be called. If you have not called your funeral director, you will have to consider doing so as the body will have to be removed by them or an authorized agent. Regrettably, there have been circumstances where police and or coroners have called a funeral home of their choice. While we will not speculate on the motives, often families find themselves being pressured by a funeral home that was called to the scene. |
| Question #3 | A death of a loved one has died at the hospital, where do we turn? |
| Answer: | Whether or not you are present when the death occurs, a health care professional will contact you and ask a few questions. Be prepared to answer these two questions: 1. Which funeral home will you be releasing the body to, for transfer from the hospital? 2. Would you like an autopsy performed? Unless the deceased has died unexpectedly, you will have the choice. An autopsy is the thorough examination of the deceased body, to understand and determine the cause of death or any factors that may have contributed toward the cause of death. The information resulting from an autopsy can help researchers in developing cures and medications to assist in the preventions of such diseases. Autopsies are generally performed quickly, as to not interfere with the funeral process, however you may experience some short delays and should check with the health care professional as to when you can expect the autopsy to be completed if a delay could be of concern to you. |
| Question #4 | A loved one has died in the nursing home, what should we do first? |
| Answer: | If you have not called your funeral director, you should do so as the body will have to be removed by them or an authorized agent. Regrettably, there have been circumstances where police and or coroners have called a funeral home of their choice. While we will not speculate on the motives, often families find themselves being pressured by a funeral home that was called to the scene. |
